Dear birth mom
Hello and thank you for taking the time to look at our website and learn more about us. We hope that our love for each other, our personalities, and our hope to become parents comes through in these pages. We know that by making this decision you want what is best for your child. And we respect and honor your desire to find the right family for your baby. We promise a nurturing home, one where the child will grow up with warm home-cooked meals, pets, music, books, art, curiosity, and laughter. We hope to instill the values of kindness, honesty, humility, open communication, awareness of other people’s needs, responsibility, and the importance of family in our child. One of the great joys of being teachers is that we engage with young and curious minds every single day. This has also given us the insight that each child possesses a unique personality. We promise to support, encourage, and nurture the development of that personality every single step of the way. If the child wants to paint, we’ll be there with brush and easel. If the child wants to play hockey, we’ll attend every game. If the child wants to cook, we’ll eat every morsel cooked by her/him.
Living in a university town like Pullman has its own rewards. Our community is very diverse with people from all over the world. We are fortunate to have friends who speak different languages, follow varied rituals and customs, and celebrate a wide range of festivals. We are keen on raising the child as a citizen of the world. We believe that speaking and listening to each other respectfully, in spite of our differences, can address so much of the world’s problems. We believe that people have more in common than what divides them. We are incredibly honored and grateful that you are considering us, and please trust us that your child will grow up with unconditional love and support. It is our promise that you will also be updated on your child’s growth and progress.
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We want you to know that as East Indians living in the United States, we fully understand and appreciate diversity and the acceptance of other people at a deeply personal level. If you belong to another race or ethnicity, we will make an effort to create connections with your child’s ethnic and racial community. Both of us are aware that being adopted by parents of a different race adds another dimension to the child’s identity as he/she grows up. It is our commitment that we will work to make these layering of identities a matter of pride, joy, sustenance, and strength for the child. We negotiate racial identities and diversity at a personal level. In our family, our cousins have spouses from different states within India (just like us). Our cousins are also married to citizens from other parts of the world. One of Bimbi’s cousins has a Vietnamese spouse and Pori has several cousins who have married Americans (Caucasians or Asian Americans). In this sense, our extended family and we are prepared for a child of any background and the child will feel right at home. We are very excited to add a baby to this diverse, loving family.
Lastly, we want you to know that you will always be respected and spoken highly of in our home. Our child will know that they are adopted from the beginning and that they have an amazing and selfless birth mom who gave us all a priceless gift. We will teach the child that adoption is a natural and normal process by which certain adults agree and choose to build and nurture their families. We are committed to the open adoption process and we will respect your comfort level and wishes to the fullest extent possible. We have immediate family members and close friends who have built their families through adoption. They swear that they would absolutely do it all over again. Pori’s paternal aunt has an adopted daughter, who is very close to Pori. And we have been ready for a child (or two!) for a while now.
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Thank you for considering us,
Pori and Bimbi
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“Love is the condition in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own.”-- Robert Heinlein
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